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"The Power of Choices: How They Shape Our Lives"




"Self-Education will make you a fortune." -Jim Rohm


OUR LIFE IS A PRODUCT OF OUR CHOICES.


Navigating Life Choices: Making the Best Decisions for a Fulfilling Life


Our choices shape our future. We are unconscious of our daily decisions and must commit to being more conscious of our choices.


Life guarantees only one thing: DEATH. It's a harsh truth, but the reality we need instead of the reality social feeds our screens.


I am not writing this to provide you with a list of things you can do to change your life or how changing your mindset can help prepare you for a better future.


Are you happy with where you are today?

  • Yes

  • No



I am not writing this to provide you with a list of things you can do to change your life or how changing your mindset can help prepare you for a better future.


Whether you are happy or not happy, if you had to reflect on the thought, wouldn't your answer ultimately reflect on the choices you made in your life?


Value:

  • What are your core values? Core values make up your character [Non-Negotiable]

  • What is important to you? Love, Time, Money, Peace?


When determining what we value, we must be clear. Take some time to re-evaluate and self-reflect. Our life is rapidly changing; we are constantly experiencing new things. What was valued 5 years ago may not be as valuable today.


It is imperative to self-reflect.



Ways to Self-Reflect:


  1. Asking yourself Deep Questions

  2. Journaling

  3. Meditation

  4. Practice Gratitude

  5. Connect with Nature

  6. Setting Goals

  7. Seeking Guidance (Reading/Researching)

  8. Relaxing (Listening to Music/Thinking)


"Solitude tests you mentally."

-T.R.H


Options:

  • Exploring your options is critical. Allow yourself the ability to make a choice instead of feeling restricted.

  • Seeking options forces you to research and self-educate yourself to find the best solution.

"Use technology. Don't let technology use you."

-T.R.H.


The world has helpful resources from technology, books, videos, and people. You can "GOOGLE" anything and find information on anything you are curious about.




[STAY CURIOUS AND SELF-EDUCATE]



3 Keys

  1. Use your resources (internet, books, AI, social media).

  2. Do not hesitate to seek advice from mentors, friends, or professional help.

  3. Ask questions, research information, and self-educate.



"Ready is always too late. When you're not ready is when you're ready."

-T.R.H.



Common Fears and Insecurities

Fears

Insecurities

Fear of Failure

Insecurity of Appearance

Fear of Rejection

Insecurity of Intelligence

Fear of the Unknown

Insecurity of Relationship

Fear of Judgement

Insecurity of Social Status

Do you find yourself experiencing fear or insecurity lately? It's okay to admit it. Acknowledging your feelings is the first step to overcoming them. Remember that you have the strength to face your fears and conquer them. Take a deep breath, believe in yourself, and take action to improve your situation. You got this!


Negativity is simply a byproduct of fear. Eliminate fear and replace it with love. We must unlearn the behaviors and mindsets ingrained in us by institutions. This is the only way to regain control of our lives. Stop concerning yourself with what others think or feel about you and focus on improving your life. Take your time and go at your own pace.


We cannot predict the future, but we can rely on the compound effect, which means that making small, smart choices consistently over time will significantly impact our lives. This principle suggests that discipline and consistency can lead to a ripple effect of positive changes, thus changing our perspective toward life.


Life can be unpredictable, with many uncertainties happening at any moment. However, you can prepare yourself for the unexpected by maintaining consistent behavior. In my next blog post, I will share some practical ways to become more mindful and aware of the things that often go unnoticed but are right in front of you. Remember to stay conscious and cautious at all times.


"Intuition is the language of the soul."

-Shannon Lee


What is intuition? The ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning.


What does your intuition tell you? Do you listen when you have that feeling of understanding without the need for conscious reasoning?


Some refer to intuition as a "gut feeling,"


Intuition can be a valuable tool in decision-making. Sometimes, our subconscious mind can pick up on patterns or information that our conscious mind may not be aware of, leading to a feeling of understanding without conscious reasoning. Trusting our gut instincts and balancing that with logical analysis and critical thinking is essential.


Practicing mindfulness is meditation, reflection, journaling, and awareness. Practicing can help you gain insight and tap into your subconscious mind. Regularly engaging in these activities can cultivate a greater sense of self-awareness and tap into your subconscious mind. This can help you gain insight into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and allow you to make more informed decisions in your daily life. Additionally, practicing mindfulness has been shown to have many benefits, including reduced stress and anxiety, improved focus and concentration, and increased well-being and happiness.



There will always be the risk of making mistakes, but how can you learn without risk?


How can you grow? How do we challenge ourselves to become better and make better choices?



We always risk making mistakes when we take chances and try new things. However, without risk, we cannot learn and grow. Taking risks and making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process; through these experiences, we gain valuable insights and develop new skills. To challenge ourselves to improve and make better choices, stepping out of our comfort zones and embracing new opportunities is essential. We can do this by setting goals, seeking out new experiences, and pushing ourselves to try things that may be difficult or unfamiliar. It's also important to reflect on our experiences and learn from our mistakes, using these insights to inform our future decisions and actions. With practice and perseverance, we can continue to grow and improve over time.


EMBRACE CHANGE!!!

Going through life changes can be a challenging experience. It can be tough to break away from our routines and habits. That's why it's essential to be kind to ourselves and have a plan. Life-changing events can bring about sudden and significant changes, but most of our habits are deeply ingrained and require a more gradual approach to adjustment. To cope with change, we must process it mentally, emotionally, and physically. It's essential to take care of ourselves during these times of transition.


In the summer of 2023, I dealt with many changes I had to adapt to. It isn't easy when you are used to things done a certain way. But I was going in a cycle that was continuing year after year. I watch myself be in the same position, and I would have kept being in that same position if I hadn't decided to change. Some life-changing events opened my eyes and made me think about my life, choices, and where I wanted to be (maybe later, I will share my experience). But it force me to look myself in the mirror and ask the following:


  1. Are you happy?

  2. Are you financially where you want to be?

  3. Do you like the way you look?

  4. Do you feel healthy? 

  5. Are you growing?

  6. Are you making an effort to change? 


During meditation and journaling, I reflect heavily on these questions daily. At the time, I didn't have a job and constantly thought about what I would do to provide. I was not too fond of this feeling. I knew something needed to change; it was me, my choices, and my behaviors. 


Eventually, I got a job, and I told myself I had to be different for me, not no one else but ME first. I will share my weight journey and how I did it, but to make a long story short, I was 242lbs in late September 2023, and by January 2024, I was 215lbs.


Making a daily effort and committing to change is crucial to success. It's vital to prioritize what you need to do over what you want to do and stay committed to your goals. Although it may be challenging, holding yourself accountable for your actions is imperative, as no one else can do it for you. Take control of your life, hold yourself responsible, and you will achieve success. Keep pushing forward!



"Take advice cautiously, not threatening" -T.R.H.

Real support means looking past someone's mistakes, letting go of our preconceived notions, and seeing the good in others. It's about helping one another, even when it's hard, and recognizing the love within each of us.


I encourage my readers to seek help from mentors, friends, or professionals whenever possible. While we may choose to navigate life independently, the reality is that the world was not created to be tackled alone. There are so many things we don't know or are not experienced enough in specific fields or subject matters. Therefore, it's essential to be willing to seek help whenever we find ourselves struggling to comprehend something. We should choose to educate ourselves as much as possible. There's nothing wrong with not knowing, but there is undoubtedly an issue with not wanting to know. So, let's always be open to learning and seeking help when needed.



Throughout my life, I have learned from both positive and negative experiences. However, I have realized that not seeking help when needed has resulted in making decisions without fully understanding their potential consequences. I take full responsibility for my life and choices, but I also acknowledge that seeking guidance from others who could have helped me better would have been beneficial. Therefore, I blame myself for not comprehending my situation and seeking support.


I also understand it can be difficult to trust people, as some individuals may use your traumas against you. Therefore, it is crucial to establish relationships with individuals whom you trust, love, and genuinely care about your well-being.


Please don't hesitate to reach out if you ever need someone to help you. Growing up, I didn't ask for help; I know it can be challenging for others. I aim to use my experiences to support, educate, and encourage others. I want to share my knowledge with those who want to make positive changes. I plan to continue doing this for as long as I can.






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